Of babies, bone marrow, and slacking

I am such a slacker around here!! I have so many updates that I don’t even know where to start but let’s start with the most fun one. My new niece was born on March 3rd and we got a chance to take a quick trip to see her before CarGuy’s transplant. She is an absolute doll and it was so hard to leave her when we left for home. I’ve decided to call her Darling on my blog because it sort of relates to her name and she is so definitely a darling child!! She doesn’t like to be contained and her arms and legs are in near constant movement when she’s not sleeping. I can’t really figure out if she looks more like BeeGee or Pepper so I’m going to take the easy way out and say she’s a good mix of both. Poor BeeGee has had nothing but problems since Darling was born. She came down with a nasty infection in her abdomen from the c-section which required another stay in the hospital and then a few days before we got there for a visit she passed a gallstone so she was in the hospital again. Once this infection gets taken care of she will need to go in and have her gallbladder removed. I feel so bad for her – this is not how your first baby is supposed to go!!

Now…on to CarGuy – his transplant was delayed yet again but we have a date set in stone, aka - don’t change this date or you will face the wrath of the insane caregiver kind of date. He goes in the hospital on March 30th with his transplant occurring on April 3rd. The trip to see Darling was a great diversion but now that we are back home he is getting nervous. I don’t blame him but really don’t know how to help his situation much more. I could wisk him away again for another short trip but I need to get some things done at home before we leave and wisking tends to interfere with those chores. I think this is maybe one thing I need to let go of and just let him deal with it. I’m a meddler, uh, I mean fixer so that’s really hard for me.

I’m looking forward to having more time to blog about all the crazy and bizarre things I’ve noticed. My family used to warn me not to blog about something stupid they did but I’ve been such a blog-slacker lately that they haven’t even felt the need to give me those warnings they know I won’t listen to. I’ve had lots of fodder to choose from but just haven’t had the time or motivation to get them down in print. Gosh…I need to get my priorities straight!!

It's a girl!!!

Woohoo!! BeeGee and Pepper's baby is a girl! Not that I don't love my nephews to death but I've definitely got a bunch of them and it will be really nice to have a new niece. I'm pretty sure this will be my last one (unless BeeGee forgets what a pain in the patootie it was to bring this one into the world) so I'm glad to add another girl to the mix. That will bring my total to 6 nephews and 3 nieces once the newcomer makes her appearance at the end of February. The only bummer is that CarGuy will be going through his bone marrow transplant in late January or early February so I won't get to see the new little bundle until she's a few months old. Unless of course CarGuy recovers from his transplant in record time -- he's says he's going to be the "anomoly" -- I've really got to stop letting him read all those big words if he's going to throw them at me like this!

Why can't people be happy for others?

As you can see from my sidebar and the little banner at the bottom of the page I am going to be an aunt again and I'm extremely excited. My middle sister, BeeGee which is short for The Band Geek (she knows I mean it in the most loving way and I'm sure she'd nickname me the Snobby Cheerleader), is expecting and it is such a blessing. She and her husband, Pepper (he'll know exactly why I call him that!), have been married for 8 years and getting preggers has been a challenge. Well...she told family this last weekend about the happy event and one certain person was not happy but rather wanted to know if she was the first to know (which she wasn't) and then proceeded to make a statement about not being the first to know. While others showed their happiness this one comment has hurt BeeGee immensely. Something she wanted to be a really happy event for all sort of turned sour on her. My heart just breaks and I wish she wasn't 1200 miles away or I'd take her out for some pampering at the spa to make her feel better. Guess I'll just have to send her a silly card instead -- you know, that's just as good -- NOT!!

I want to give this person a piece of my mind but I know it's best if I keep my mouth shut. I know this type of behavior is indicative of someone who is not fulfilled and doesn't really feel like she's anything special. I know she just wanted to be the first to know so she could get that special feeling. I can understand the feeling because as DS (who wants to know why he doesn't get a cool nickname on here -- hmmm I'll have to give that some thought) gets older I am lower on the totem pole of information. I remember when he was a little boy I was the first to know everything and I knew everything going on in his life. It's just not that way anymore but as time goes by it gets easier to deal with. He has his own life and it seems the more I let go the more he keeps me involved -- another topic for another day to be sure! I don't think she has been able to get to this point and I'm not holding out much hope that she will.

Anyway...I wish I could just let this person know, in a kind way, that her reactions to things have a lasting impact on people. I wish I could get her to a point where she finds fulfillment in her own accomplishments rather than living vicariously through others. That vicarious living will only leave you flat when those you depend on don't do exactly what you want them to. I wish there was some way I could instill in her the confidence she lacks. There is so much I wish for her but as time goes by I only see her sinking deeper into the pit she's in. Where is that darn magic wand I ordered eons ago?!?! UPS is really getting on my list now!!! Grrrrr....